Between: A guide for parents of eight to thirteen-year-olds

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Of course, the above tips have focused solely on helping your tween to cope with the transition to a new school, but it’s import- ant not to forget what a big experience it is for you, too. Try to attend any new parents’ information evenings and take advantage of offers to chat with form tutors before, or soon after, your tween starts school. Most schools will run a parents’ evening towards the end of the first term, which will give you an opportunity to meet your tween’s teachers and hear about how they are settling in. I think one of the hardest things about being a parent or carer to a tween at secondary school is having far less involvement with school than you had previously. It feels strange not knowing their teachers well or what room they will be in at any given time. You do get used to the change, but it can often take parents longer than tweens to feel at peace with the transition. The CEO of NSPCC, Peter Wanless, doesn’t agree with the criticism that this is ‘new age dogma’ that will lead to a ‘snooping’ culture.

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For too long parenting has been viewed as a battle. A battle for control between parent and child. Some parenting methods give all control to the children, for fear of the little tyrants becoming unmanageable monsters as they grow. Other methods give children far too much control, with parents scared to discipline when necessary, for fear of upsetting their delicate offspring. Gentle parenting is all about finding a balance of control, giving children just enough, at a time when they can handle it, with parents enforcing appropriate boundaries and limits. Gentle parenting is about being ever mindful of the long term effects of a parent’s actions as well as the immediate needs of safety and expectations of society.Baumrind stated that ideally “ parents should be neither punitive nor aloof. Rather, they should develop rules for their children and be affectionate with them. ” Or in other words the ideal parents would walk a carefully balanced line of good responsiveness and appropriate demand of the child, mindful of their development. The definition of this? Authoritative parenting, or as I like to call it: Gentle Parenting. We need to be promoting and encouraging children to learn how to regulate their own emotions and behaviour through learning how to breathe and regulate,’ she adds. ‘Instead of having outbursts they learn to control their own behaviour but this can only be done if we co-regulate our own emotions too.’

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The in-between childhood and teenager stage is notoriously hard to navigate for parents and children alike. You may be feeling like all the parenting techniques you used when your kids were younger are no longer working and you're starting from scratch, which is where this book comes in. Using a blend of biology, psychology and sociology, this book is full of practical parenting advice that will give you the tools to guide your child through this time - Daily Express Gentle parenting is mindful of current science and child psychology. It is also respectful of cultural and historical practices of child rearing. It is a holistic philosophy that embraces the emotional as well as practical aspects of parenthood. In gentle parenting children matter, but so do adults too. Parenting should be a dance between the needs of children and parents, with practice this dance can lead to something quite beautiful, with tremendous growth for both. Do a couple of practice runs of their school journey, especially if your tween will be using public transport or walking. Gentle parenting is not easy, but what parenting is? It doesn’t however require anything more than love, dedication and consistency. It isn’t something that is reserved for the most naturally calm, highly educated, ‘stay at home’ parents or those with only one child. It doesn’t matter if you have a temper, how much money you have in the bank, what qualifications you have, whether you have one child or six. It doesn’t matter how you were parented yourself and it doesn’t matter if you started your parenting journey on a different path. At the end of this book you will find a chapter devoted to those parents who previously adopted other, perhaps less gentle, parenting methods and are looking for a different way. You will also find a section dedicated to how to cope with criticism of your parenting. Similarly in a later chapter I will also discuss what to expect in terms of results, when you should expect them and what to do if it gentle parenting doesn’t seem to be working for you.Jūsu mazajam pusaudzim ir nepieciešams, lai jūs būtu viņa advokāts. Viņam ir jāzina, ka jūs esat viņa stiprā klints un pat tajos brīžos, kad jums būs grūti, jūs viņu aizstāvēsiet, atbalstīsiet un nodrošināsiet, ka pret viņu izturēsies ar līdzjūtību un cieņu, ko viņš ir pelnījis. Tas, ka jūs esat gatavi iestāties par savu mazo pusaudzi un viņu aizstāvēt, ir pats galvenais, kas ļaus viņam saprast, ka jūs vienmēr būsiet viņa rīcībā. Tas savukārt nodrošinās daudz lielāku iespēju, ka mazais pusaudzis jums atvērsies un lūgs palīdzību, kad tas būs nepieciešams. The new legislation removes the ‘reasonable punishment’ defence that has been in place since the Victorian era, which gave parents some legal protection for hitting their kids. This is the beauty of gentle parenting. Gentle parenting isn’t a trend, it isn’t a label for a precise way of doing things according to one person’s point of view. Gentle parenting is an ethos, a way of being you might say. There are no rules to follow, no demands of your nationality, family finances or personal choices. In a nutshell, gentle parenting is a lifestyle that embraces both your physical and psychological behaviour, not only towards your children, but to yourself too.

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The prize draw opens at 12:01 am BST on 28.01.2021 and closes at 11:59 pm BST on 10.03.2021. Any entries received outside these specified times and dates will not be eligible for entry into the prize draw.I found the chapter on raising a financially literate tween one of the most interesting and am already putting ideas I read into place to open these conversations and teach money management. There is a lot of food for thought as well as practical tips on how to prepare our tweens for real life. She tells Metro.co.uk: ‘Children have a right to grow up free from violence – without fear of being hit and hurt by those that are meant to care for and nurture them.

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Watch Sarah chatting about the contents of her new book ‘Because I Said So’ on Good Morning Britain below: Chapter 13 is the final chapter, which is no coincidence. It feels right to leave you at the age when your child becomes a true teenager – the official end of the tween years. Parting is the theme of this chapter: how to let go and give your child wings to fly (especially when you feel like holding on tight) is something many struggle with. How much independence is too much, or too little? And how do you cope with your own feelings as your child reaches towards looming adulthood. Although this book is about your tween, it is also about you as a parent, and it feels fitting to end with a chapter that concerns you as much as your child. After all, you will always be standing at one end of that bridge, watching with pride as your child continues their journey through the in between, but ready and waiting with open arms should they need to return to you again. Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.” Margaret Mead – Cultural Anthropologist Try to buy any uniform needed several weeks before the start of term, so that your tween can wear it around the house, including new shoes (blisters in the first week aren’t fun). If they must wear a tie as part of their new uniform, keep practising at home until they are a pro at tying it.We live in a world that places more value on things than people. Society today is all about ‘the stuff’ and the pursuit of more. We spend so much time dwelling on the past and planning for the future that we forget to live today. Or we spend so long buried in the busyness of the present moment that we miss the things that really matter. Our society is selfish, violent, short sighted and focussed on conformity rather than respect for individuality. This is the world we are preparing our children for.