Shots Fist It Anal Relaxer, 500 ml

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This mucous lining is thinner and more delicate than normal skin, making it easier to tear. This is especially true for babies, who often get anal fissures. It can also become inflamed by injury or disease. Long-term (chronic) inflammation can weaken the tissues. Not only is that painful, it also makes you more susceptible to sexually transmitted infections, like gonorrhea and HIV, board-certified ob-gyn Jacques Moritz, M.D., tells SELF. That’s because these tears create openings in the skin, potentially allowing infection-causing pathogens to enter.

This advice still stands if your partner ejaculates inside you. Though some people worry this could cause runny poops that resemble diarrhea, Dr. Frankhouse says this actually isn’t the case. For one thing, since poop usually isn’t in your rectum until you’re close to expelling it, there’s no real opportunity for poop and semen to mix. Even if poop could go farther up into your colon, semen is usually runny. Since your anus will likely remain expanded for a few minutes after anal sex, that semen can just leak right on out, Dr. Frankhouse says. If you want to go to the bathroom to expel that, feel free, but it’s not necessary! Wipe your anus carefully with soft paper or alcohol-free wet wipes. Consider using a bidet, or shower after pooping.If you’re using a silicone dilator, use a water-based lube like #LubeLife instead. Remember: Silicone breaks down silicone. Choose the best position And along with one of these top-rated anal lubes, Matatas also suggests investing in a good lube applicator or lube shooter. "They help you get lube deeper into the rectum, which is great for making sure you're not just applying lube to the first couple of inches of the rectum if you're penetrating past that," she says. Finn agrees, pointing out that with lube shooters, "you don’t have to worry about more lube getting on your hands or sheets than where you actually want it to go." Plugging frees up your hands for simultaneous fun, like caressing your erogenous zones, or allows you to train while your partner goes down on you. What should you do if it hurts? Most dilator kits, like this one from VuVatech, start at around 0.5 inches in diameter, which is a good starting point for most.

We’re not saying you need to risk bankruptcy or anything, but choosing a quality dilator is important. Apply a liberal amount of lube to your finger or toy, as well as around your anal opening. By liberal I mean basting yourself up like you would a turkey on Thanksgiving. First, try not to freak out. Stop what you’re doing, remove the dilator very gently, and head to the mirror to assess the situation. Your anus is surrounded by two circular muscles that help control your bowel movements (your anal sphincters). If these muscles are too tight, they can add tension to your anal lining, making it easier to tear and even reducing blood flow to the tissues. Primary causes of anal fissures include:Do not use a numbing cream or jelly like lidocaine to help reduce pain during anal sex."When the anal skin is numb, you might not feel significant injury from vigorous activity, so you might overlook a serious injury to the anus," says Dr. Boyle. Use plain, water-based or silicone lubricants only. Use plenty of lubrication: The anus does not naturally lubricate like the mouth or vagina. Therefore, a high-quality, lubricant is essential to reduce friction and discomfort. Don’t be affraid to apply generous lube in and around the anus for smoother entry. You can even inject lube with a lube shooter. Lidocaine: Another local anesthetic similar to benzocaine but slightly stronger and longer-lasting. It’s no secret that poop comes out of the anus. Most fecal matter sits higher up in your rectum, but anal play can bring on the urge to poop.

Trauma — like stretching and straining — causes your anal lining to tear. But preexisting conditions can also play a role. This has to do with the anatomy of your anus (butthole), which is really the last few centimeters of the long, muscular tube known as your large intestine. Use with Care: Remember that if you numb an area, you might not feel if something is causing damage. Always go slow and communicate with your partner. THE REVIEW: As one person writes, "By far the best anal lube we’ve used to date. Water-based yet still viscous enough to use for longer running anal play. A little goes a long way." Hemorrhoids and anal fissures have similar symptoms and causes, and it’s easy to mistake one for the other. Both can happen when you strain too much to poop, and both can cause rectal bleeding, anal pain and anal itching. Aside from using an anal relaxant, there are many ways to prepare mentally and physically before engaging in anal sex. Here are some tips to help you relax before anal sex:Taylor Sparks is an erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven, one of the largest BIPOC-owned online intimacy shops.