Nice Girls Don't Get The Corner Office: 101 unconscious mistakes women make...

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But a boss receiving that type of advice is likely to get incenses at the gall of his subordinate to call his own shots. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher. As a self help book, this is quite interactive. You answer a survey at the beginning which identifies key problem areas applicable to you. You then action on those specific behavioural traits which are explained with real-life examples and supplemented with simple coaching tips to help you overcome them. Acquiescing to Bullies: use “I statements” to let them know how you feel. Nobody can argue when you say “I feel like I’m not being heard” As an example, she proposes to turn “would it be all right with you if I work at home tomorrow?” into this I just wanted to let you know I’ll be working at home tomorrow”.

In a few cases, that might work. But in most office situations, that’s overly aggressive and not good advice. Even in Western countries, women are still not on an equal footing with men. There are many reasons for this inequality, most of which can’t be changed by one woman alone. I'm so impressed with the book I intend on buying copies for female friends as graduation presents. I also loved that Frankel recommends a plethora of other resources and career coaching books throughout. She is a generous author who never fails to cite and recommend her influences, a rare skill in a world of self-promotional and narcissistic branding. As a woman in the workplace, it can be difficult to overcome the pressures and teachings of society, parents and peers to be a "good girl" by going with the flow and not being assertive to get needs met. I believe women need to learn how to be empowered on their own because they certainly aren't getting it from others. Empowerment for women doesn't mean you have to be a over-controlling bitch or a whining nag. We certainly cannot act like men because we aren't men but we can find that balance that I find myself craving.Men rely on relationships to open doors for them; they don’t view it as taking advantage of anyone.

Believing Others Know More than You: probe authority, ask how do they know it, or based on what they say it In fact, a modest 8 percent of all top executives worldwide are women, and there are no more than twenty female heads of state throughout the world.Doing the Work of Others: “Promotions are rewards for getting the job done, not necessarily doing the job” The author said it was a mistake to minimize her awards, but I thought the girl did the right thing. When someone else is bragging for you, you can gain more points by acting humble. PROS On the contrary, “nice girls” are reluctant to advocate on their own behalf, and instead, they work hard hoping that someone will notice and give them the rewards they deserve. If that’s your case, sorry to break it out to you, but that’s not how it usually goes. The issue is that, from early childhood, girls are taught to link their well-being and success to acting in certain stereotypical ways, like being polite, lady-like, soft, compliant, caring, or relationship-oriented, and these behaviours are then later reinforced throughout our life by the media, family, and social messages. So, when we find ourselves acting a certain way almost unconsciously, it is not that we are trying to sabotage ourselves, we’re simply acting in ways that are consistent with our past learning experiences. Around a year ago I was wandering around Amsterdam’s American Book Centre, and “ Nice Girls Don’t Get The Corner Office” by Lois P. Frankel caught my eye. As someone who’s into personal growth, the book resonated with my interest in career development, and its provocative title did the rest.