The New Bottoming Book

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So if this book was completely not for me, then why two stars? I think it has value for people who are actually into this stuff. I wasn't too keen on the "interludes," which are essentially little snippets from friends or acquaintances of Hardy & Easton about their experiences. Theoretically these could be helpful but mostly they just read like smut and seemed kind of pointless. I also didn't love the inclusion of a chapter on "BDSM Spirituality." It felt like too much of a departure from the rest of the text to warrant being included, plus it was predictably new-agey and hippy-dippy and all that. So you get quotes like: Every now and then, over the course of the year and a quarter that I've been exploring BDSM, I've stumbled across a perfect gem: an author who voices my own unspoken thoughts more clearly than I ever thought possible. Having spent over two decades ashamed of my own need and ultimately isolated from my sexuality, I cannot overstate the value of these little glimpses into other minds that think like mine. Polly Peachum's lovely essay "The Fragrant Dust" leaves me exhilarated and stunned with recognition. Miria Hunter and Yaldah Tovah have written some of the finest essays you'll ever read on the dynamics of consensual Master/slave relationships and the psychology of submission. Although they did not achieve 100% success, it was evident to me that the authors attempted to write this book in a manner that was part educational and entertaining. Instead of just stating facts, the authors give us glimpses into their personal lives by sharing stories of experiences they and others in the lifestyle have had. They don't sugarcoat things and tell it how it is! A few principles seem to have guided Easton and Hardy in the penning of this volume. First, they're very much in favor of involving oneself in a local BDSM community, attending "munches" (jargon for informal, fully-clothed meet-and-greet sessions open to anyone who wants to attend), taking classes and attending demos. All great advice if you are in a place that has a community to join. Second, they assume pretty firmly that theirs readers are single or non-monogamous. If you're in a committed, monogamous relationship, a lot of their advice is going to have to be adapted heavily to your situation. They don't talk about technique because they are focused on motivation.

The authors don't try to railroad the reader down one particular road; rather, they give you the tools to empower yourself and become confident enough to actually dive into play without excess worries or insecurities. This sort of comforting, non-judgemental attitude can be surprisingly rare in the BDSM community. It's super readable, very inclusive of different styles and intensities of play, and I think it's not only a good primer but a good refresher for more experienced players. That issue is reinforced by constant recaps of writer's personal accounts of public play sessions, which are, frankly, of very little interest and importance and are brought up too often. There was also a lot missing in regards to navigating ethics, trauma, and joy for/with fat folks and disabled folks — for example, how might a person’s ability to engage in normative D/S actions like kneeling and spanking be different based on size or ability?, or how might the impact of shame and punishment around movement differently affect fat and/or disabled folks? I would have liked to see Janet and Dossie offer play alternatives for folks navigating these intersections, and provide a more sophisticated analysis of cultural and bodily barriers to BDSM. I thought Part 2 whilst extensive in the types of play ,I felt that the authors reminiscing of their conquests detracted from the actual "playing". The mention of "waxplay" had me sit up but then there was nothing about it(I will have to find a specialist book in this)and yet they did discuss the real "edgeplay" stuff in length. The section on Spiritualism in BDSM was quite interesting. There is very little practical advice about how to find community, multiple approaches to different types of relationships, etc. It's a very "free to be you and me as long as you're cool with everything" attitude. I think the reason they are so popular is because there really aren't very many good non-fiction books out there about these issues.

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This book sounded like one huge justification to act out your inner sadist, bully, villain, whatever harmful behaviour, without getting busted. Yes, submissive people consent to those actions. But does that change anything, really? Easton and Hardy don't dismiss the minutiae of technique as unimportant. Far from it; they are very clear about the responsibilities that come with rendering someone helpless. Tops have a burden of care to make sure nobody suffers permanent harm, and because of this responsibility the authors insist that a top shouldn't attempt any technique that he or she can't be sure of using in a safe, controlled manner. This was a solid intro book to topping/dom dynamics — accessible writing, encouraging and non-judgemental language, a decent amount of nuance. It feels like Dossie and Janet are your kinky and occasionally problematic white lady aunties loud-whispering secrets to you in a movie theatre while making sure you’re on your shit with safer sex. Radical Ecstasy written by Dossie Easton and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2011-08-02 with Self-Help categories. The book was inclusive and had some interesting views regarding spirituality and BDSM that I haven't seen in my other research.

The Topping Book written by Dossie Easton and has been published by Greenery Press (CA) this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 1995 with Sadism categories.you have the right to expect support from your partner - whether you're in scene space or out of it urn:lcp:newbottomingbook0000east:epub:c214cea6-9d1a-4fec-b6be-34e02ed1610e Foldoutcount 0 Identifier newbottomingbook0000east Identifier-ark ark:/13960/t9q36gk8c Invoice 1652 Isbn 1890159352 preconceptions you may have about "submissives" and the BDSM Scene. So by all means its a good starting point. And there were some passages in the book that did exactly that. There's a list in Chapter 2 of emotions that a person might wish to experience in-scene, and along with such expected items as "helplessness," "lust," "humiliation," and "being nurtured," I was pleasantly astonished to discover "martyrdom," "pathos," "resentment," "sadness." Rarely, if ever, had I seen such emotions treated as potentially normal and desirable parts of the BDSM experience, and yet they figured often in my fantasies as part of an essentially cathartic psychodrama. Obviously, seeing as how Easton and Hardy saw fit to include them in the list, there are other people who have the same needs I do to venture into the realm of quiet, dark emotions. Playing Well With Others written by Lee Harrington and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2012-02-29 with Self-Help categories.