The Psychology Behind The Cuckold Fetish: How It's Caused, What It Means About You, And How To Change

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As the bull, you’re the third party that gets chosen to come into the relationship. The main draw here is getting to have no-strings-attached sex with someone who is eager and willing. Use these tips to help you open the dialogue and figure out if it’s something you really want to try. If they bring it up with you Kalichman, S. C. (2013). Sexual sensation seeking scale. In T. D. Fisher, C. M. Davis, W. L. Yarber, & S. L. Davis (Eds.), Handbook of sexuality-related measures (pp. 564–565). New York: Routledge.

Too vanilla? Suggest your partner get a sensual massage from someone else while you watch to test the waters. If you’re not quite ready to go looking for a bull, you can get off on listening to your partner talk about sex with someone else. Even if they’re not on board, sharing your desires can open the way for other exploration and kink. Have all the information

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Ley, D. (2009). Insatiable wives: Women who stray and the men who love them. Lanham, MD: Rowman & Littlefield. For some, humiliation ramps up the erotic intensity of the act by a bazillion. This can come from watching their partner with someone else, or some extra humiliation thrown in for good measure, like being laughed at or belittled by their partner and the bull. Even though there’s a chance they won’t be into it, don’t let that stop you from being completely honest.Penke, L., & Asendorpf, J. B. (2008). Beyond global sociosexual orientations: A more differentiated look at sociosexuality and its effects on courtship and romantic relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 95(5), 1113. doi: 10.1037/0022-3514.95.5.1113. Smith, R. S. (1976). Voyeurism: A review of literature. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 5(6), 585–608. doi: 10.1007/BF01541221. Chapter 3 explores the way these deep-rooted fears and feelings can affect your life; causing all sorts of behaviors, like: addictions (alcoholism, drugs, gambling, or porn). Obsessive self-improvement (work, money, dieting/bodybuilding, or knowledge). Escapism (excessive video games, TV, Films, intellectualization). Grandiose fantasies, as well as occasional subhuman perceptions; an unstable sense of self. Underachieving, procrastinating, overachieving, perfectionism. Geoffrey Hughes (26 March 2015). An Encyclopedia of Swearing: The Social History of Oaths, Profanity, Foul Language, and Ethnic Slurs in the English-speaking World. Taylor & Francis. pp.191–. ISBN 978-1-317-47677-1.

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