The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be: 12 (The New Father, 1)

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The most helpful parts of this book are descriptions of what is going on with the mother both physically and mentally, as well as what most fathers can expect to feel like at specific parts of the pregnancy. It also has some helpful information on what the father’s role should be. Not surprisingly, it’s not pissing off the mother, and not breaking the baby. Deciding whether to take time off from work is also deeply troubling for a lot of expectant fathers. It doesn't help that for many men, the strong impulse to be home to care for their wives and babies collides with their equally strong anxieties about their finances. The Birth Partner is a valuable resource for dads-to-be who want to be actively involved in their partner’s childbirth experience. With its comprehensive coverage of the birth process, practical advice, and emphasis on the vital role of the birth partner, this guide is an indispensable tool for expectant fathers and other labor companions. #5. Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook For New Dads by Gary Greenberg And Jeannie Hayden Overall, this book is moderately informative, but generally didn't contain any revelatory information. There were also some points where Brott's advice ran contrary to the guidance of my local hospital—perhaps a regional difference, or perhaps Brott's book is having a hard time keeping up to date. Even though this book is in its 5th edition and was updated within the past two years, it was first published some 25 years ago and in many ways feels even older. Which brings me to my two complaints. Despite Brott's vocal claims to level the playing field between mothers and fathers, I was amazed at the number of gendered cliches that make it into this book. On the one hand we have the Domestic/Needy Mother. Brott consistently depicts women as domestic homebodies who are prone to emotional instability and plagued by persistent neediness. Don't worry though: the Domestic/Needy Mother can always be placated with flowers, chocolates, or an indulgent massage. (Can you hear my eyes rolling?)

The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips and Advice for Dads-to-Be The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips and Advice for Dads-to-Be

You can request a discontinuous pattern for taking SPL from your employer – for example, two weeks on, two weeks off – but your employer has the right to refuse such a request. All you really need when you read a book like this is an author with experience, which breeds knowledge and any expectant dad can stand to listen a man who has these two things when it comes to newborn infants. They also need to hear that it's been done before. Other mothers and fathers have been through what you're going through and they've survived just fine. Going through an obscure/rare event? They've been through that too, and here's what you do.

So, it’s the big day. My wife and I are going to the hospital to be admitted, and in a few short hours (hopefully) we will be delivering a healthy baby girl into the world, and I have to say that I’m much less nervous than I would have been had I not read Armin A. Brott and Jennifer Ash’s excellent daddy-to-be prep guidebook “The Expectant Father”. Your employer can say no to your request for one of eight business reasons. They cover: additional costs; an inability to reorganise work; an inability to recruit additional staff; detrimental impact on quality, performance or customer service; insufficient work for the periods the employee proposes to work; and a planned structural change to the business.

The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be

The nice thing about Brott’s book is that it is less daunting than the Bible of Pregnancy/Childcare, “Know What to Expect When You’re Expecting”. This is an important question because most of the rights described in this booklet only apply to employees. Not everyone who works for someone else is an employee in the eyes of the law. If your employer tells you that you are not an employee, for example, because you are self-employed or an agency worker, you should seek advice and clarification to make sure that this is really the case and you are not missing out on leave and pay that you are entitled to. Same-sex partnersThis book is kind of like that. It’s more or less one person’s opinions and experience with a few studies thrown in. The difference between this and some lady you see at a restaurant is that you can tell the book to shut up.

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I ended up skimming quite a bit of the book (Is it bad that I skipped the “what to do if you have to deliver the baby yourself” portion?). It isn’t that the information isn’t helpful, it’s just not very helpful, and, for the most part, it’s kind of outdated. The book is written in a world without digital cameras, DVDs or iPods, so I’m forced to question how up to date the baby information is. For instance, the author makes frequent references to a “vagina.” I don’t even know what that is, and I went to Law School. If you’ve taken less than four consecutive weeks of parental leave you have the right to return to the same job. However, if you take more than four consecutive weeks, you have the right to return to the same job unless that is not reasonably practicable, in which case you have the right to return to a similar job on terms and conditions that are not less favourable. Right to request flexible working I read some parenting books geared toward partners/dads in comparison to those for moms/those carrying the baby. I wanted to see if the depth of information was drastically different between the top books in the genre. Brott dispenses some good advice and also brings up things I wouldn't have considered. He also jabbed me in the chest and reminded me how much stuff my wife and I still have to buy before Miles arrives. Fingers crossed for that 7/31 delivery date!In addition to explaining the physiological changes happening to both the mother and the baby, the book delves into the emotional roller coaster that comes with pregnancy. It offers tips on how to support your partner, bond with your unborn child, and manage the stresses that can arise during this time. The authors also share insights on navigating relationship changes and balancing work and family life. You can use SPL to be off work at the same time as your partner. You could both be off work on SPL or you could take some SPL while your partner is still on maternity leave.

The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips, and Advice for Dads-to-be

If you are not the child’s father but you are the mother’s partner and share the main responsibility for caring for the child, then you may be entitled to SPL. A partner is someone who is the spouse or civil partner of the mother or someone who is in a relationship with the mother and lives with her at the time of the birth. Your employer can’t make you work during a period of SPL but you might find it beneficial to use SPLIT days, for example, to attend a training day or generally keep in touch. This insightful book offers practical strategies for fostering healthy brain development in children, helping new fathers understand and respond to their child’s needs effectively. Father to Son: Life Lessons on Raising a Boy by Harry H. Harrison Jr. Once your partner’s maternity leave and pay have been brought to an end and converted into SPL and ShPP, it becomes a shared entitlement which either of you can use if you both meet the eligibility requirements for taking it.

One of the better pregnancy books for expectant fathers I've been reading (I'm in the middle of about 5, but this is the first I've finished...) According to Brott and Goldman, expectant fathers need to fight against some of the societal assumptions about parenthood.