The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (20th Anniversary Edition)

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When you reject feminine energy, you become tired, dried out, and lonely; you begin to complain that life is not fulfilling and that there are no good women.

I absolutely value everything I learned, but was it worth all the baggage it came with? I don’t know. I still feel shame when women hold space for me, or when I do things that make me seem weak or vulnerable. I’m secretly worried that women only value me for my masculinity. Living life to the top of one’s abilities is no easy feat. And whether or not you believe each person has one or more purpose in life, it is admirable to abandon the distraction activities we all engage in to figure out how to use our gifts to truly make an impact. The book repeatedly brings up the focus required for men to control their attention, their energy, and their efforts. While the language ventures frequently into the spiritual, the ideas are still fundamentally relatable.As a man, you are meant to guide the relationship. You’re meant to lead. Take ownership, my man. The Way of the Superior Man [girl’s version] Evolutionary biologists mostly share this opinion: it’s the ladies who choose. Deida phrases this thus: “If a man wants a woman who doesn’t want him, he cannot win.” So, choose a woman who choose you to be her partner. And of course, it’s worth mentioning that sometimes your father, friend or another leader may very well have a vision that IS in accordance with your deepest vision. And in that case, you are to synchronize your efforts. Though much has changed in society since the first publication of The Way of the Superior Man, men of all ages still “tussle with the challenges of women, work, and sexual desire.” Including an all-new preface by author David Deida, this 20th-anniversary edition of the classic guide to male spirituality offers the next generation the opportunity to cultivate trust in the moment and put forth the best versions of themselves in an ever-changing world.

The Superior Man releases the tension of others by releasing his own, through them, and sharing his gift of openness with the world. In this section, you’ll learn how to use your breath to channel your energy. Breathe Into Your Tension In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida explores the most important issues in men's lives—from career and family to women and intimacy to love and spirituality and relationships—to offer a practical guidebook for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. Join this bestselling author and internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality for straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help you realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise. Each man has a capacity for growth, i.e. a limit. Don’t forget this. Because “where a man’s edge is located is less important than whether he is actually living his edge in truth, rather than being lazy or deluded.” Fearlessness is “a quintessential form of the ultimate masculine gift.” A woman is turned off by men who are afraid: she wants someone capable of killing a mouse without blinking, someone ready to face everything that comes along the way, no matter how scary.It’s about feeling free to explore the depths of how we can show up within both our masculine and feminine essence, yet not being limited by having to choose. In Conclusion

Or is she more turned on by the man who has a powerful mission in life…a go-getter…a man living powerfully and on his own terms…a man who although he’s turned on by the woman in question, knows that he has a deeper purpose… Finally, a guide for the non-castrated male. This book will offend and infuriate some, inspire and test others, but challenge virtually everybody. Few are the books that discuss strong sexuality within strong spirituality. Love it or loathe it, it is a shout from the heart of one perspective of the eternal masculine.”—Ken Wilber, author of Sex, Ecology, Spirituality; No Boundary; and Grace and GritWe have pioneered the largest worldwide conversation about what it means to be a good man in the 21st century. He is the king of hyperbole — so when we compare ourselves to what he suggests it’s a recipe for disaster. Women are driven to pursue love—their path to fullness is surrender, rather than release. In sex, their desire is to be filled, connected, unified, and made whole. That’s why they’re disappointed when you stop holding them after your orgasm; you’ve achieved the freedom of release, but she’s achieved the fullness of surrender and wants to remain One.

When you stop distracting yourself are and you silence the world of matter and monkey-mind chatter, something interesting occurs. You start to hear the little voice some refer to as your conscience. When in silence, the ideal question to ask yourself is “What is my deepest purpose?” You will get an answer if you listen closely enough. Often times the answer will be unclear and ambiguous, that’s Ok. It will, however, give you the next step. Sometimes it will be loud and clear. It depends. That’s the beauty, that’s the mystery. I still remember him walking in the room on the first day — he silently looked around (in a meditative, contemplative way) and after a few deep breaths began with “alright now everyone take off your clothes”, which was followed by laughter and smiles. Though you’re equal, you’re not the same; for your relationship to best serve you and your woman, you must support each other in the pursuit of your distinct priorities.

For anyone interested, I’d suggest starting with The Will to Change by bell hooks, it’s a personable and in-depth look at how our culture sets up men to fail, and what we can do about it. The principal bodily key to mastering the world and women is maintaining a full and open front of the body at all times,” suggest Deida. “The best method is through full and relaxed breathing, drawing energy down the front, and freeing attention from neurotic self-concern.”