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Do you remember when you were 16? Do you remember having your first crush? At 16, it’s so much easier to feel the spark and chemistry than when you’re older because our prefrontal cortex is not yet fully developed. As we get older, our reasoning power, self-control, discipline, and ability to be more discerning are all strengthened. You probably came to this book wondering how to find or keep love with a partner. We want love in our lives, and we naturally assume it should take the form of romantic love. But it’s a misconception that the only love in your life is between you and your partner, your family, and your friends. It’s a misconception that life is meant to be a love story between you and one other person. That love is just a stepping-stone. Having a partner isn’t the end goal. It’s practice for something bigger, something life-changing, a form of love that is even more expansive and rewarding than romantic love." Al aplicar estas ocho reglas del amor de Jay Shetty aprenderemos a amar a nuestra pareja, al mundo y también a nosotros mismos
I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being. A lot of studies and research have gone into why being alone, being confident, and being single is not only better for you, but also better for your future partner. Professor and clinical psychologist Bella DePaulo says, “It’s a broad misconception that single people are to blame for the high levels of loneliness reported internationally.” In fact, studies show that overall, the longer people are single in life, the happier they become. Nobody sits us down and teaches us how to love. So we’re often thrown into relationships with nothing but romance movies and pop culture to help us muddle through. Until now."We can all agree that no one wants to be lonely. In fact, many people would rather stay in an unhappy relationship than be single. If you type the phrase Will I ever… into a search engine, it predicts that the next words you will enter are find love, because Will I ever find love is the most popular question people ask about their futures.
You should do what’s best for you, she told him. I want to be clear. I’m not sure where our relationship is going. He was unsure at first, but a month after she left, he moved to Austin. Der Autor hat eine Art so lang um den heißen Brei zu reden, sodass man am Ende jedes Kapitels sich anstrengen muss die Kernaussage herauszufiltern. Somit behält man nicht viel aus dem Buch I think he takes some serious liberties with interpretations of Vedic texts. He frames everything into love (and mostly between monogamous partners) which... took one Google to dispel. His four stages of love.... are really stretched interpretations from the Bhagavad Gita. And I feel like he just uses whatever suits him to fit his point because well... none of us were monks! none of us have read the Bhagavad Gita!! so how would we know!
8 Rules of Love Book PDF Summary
Many of us pass through these four ashrams without learning the lessons they present. In the first ashram, we resist being alone and miss out on the growth that solitude offers. In the second, we avoid lessons that come from the challenges that accompany any relationship. In the third, we don’t take responsibility for our healing. And the fourth—loving everyone—is something we never even consider because we have no idea it’s possible.
The fourth ashram, Sannyasa, is the epitome of love—when we’re extending our love to every person and every moment of our life. In this stage our love becomes boundless. We realize we can experience love at any time with anyone. We learn how to love again and again (Rule 8). We strive for this perfection, but we never achieve it. My review at Newsblaze sounded a bit too harsh. THIS IS A GOOD BOOK. Not "new" and unprecedented but still useful those who have not read a gazillion other books about love and relationships. If you ask a friend or family member who’s dating right now, they’ll tell you they’ve been going on a lot of dates recently, but they haven’t felt any spark or chemistry. We are addicted to this idea of feeling a spark or chemistry. It’s healthy to be attracted to the person that we want to spend our lives with, or at least some of our life with, but we’re all chasing this intangible ethereal feeling. Studies show that when young, our prefrontal cortex is not fully developed so we think with our feelings, instead of reason and self-control. It’s natural when we’re young to feel more spark or chemistry. In the first ashram, Brahmacharya, we prepare for love. We don’t get in a car and start to drive without studying for a learner’s permit and practicing the core skills in a safe space. When we take a new job, we might prepare by learning a new computer program, talking to people we’ll be working with about what might be expected of us, or reviewing whatever skills we might need. And we prepare for love by learning how to love ourselves in solitude. Alone, we learn to understand ourselves, to heal our own pain, and to care for ourselves. We acquire skills like compassion, empathy, and patience (Rule 1). This prepares us to share love because we’ll need these qualities when we love someone else. We will also examine our past relationships to avoid making the same mistakes in relationships going forward (Rule 2). He really relies on the fact that he was a monk, is a husband, and a coach to whoever for the reader to trust him. I am a PhD, I've been a girlfriend, and I coach people. Does that automatically mean you should trust me???? I actually don't trust him one bit. I know he's only gonna try to sell me his next book, his meditation app, his coaching services, or his podcast, whatever snake oil he's got cooking.
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It’s much healthier and more important to see your partner in multiple interactions over time before you’ve gone too far in. Studies show that you need around 40 hours to consider someone a casual friend, a hundred hours to consider someone a good friend, and 200 hours to consider someone a great friend. Being in a relationship seems like the obvious cure for loneliness. Aren’t we lonely because we’re alone? But the fear of loneliness interferes with our ability to make good decisions about relationships. My client Leo had been dating Isla for nearly a year when her job took her from Philadelphia to Austin. At first, 8 rules of love may seem like just another one of the boring, repetitive self-help books that's gonna try and teach us about love and instead be full of author's plugins, repetitive advice we've all heard that doesn't work and just fall short. You forget what you've read a day or two after. This is so far from that. But I would hate to express my love for this book and how great it is, with comparing it to others, and moreso because of how in its own league it is. Gerade in Sachen von Liebe und gesunder Beziehung halte ich vor 3000 Jahren als kein gutes autoritätsargument (; Sejujurnya, ketika liat judul buku barunya Jay Shetty yang ini, aku teringat lagunya JKT48 😂 (Aturan Anti Cinta)...
Most of my friends were in relationships. I basically felt single without Isla, and I didn’t want to be lonely, so I decided to join her. Instead of thinking about the pros and cons of moving—What were his job prospects? What was he leaving behind in Philadelphia? Who did he know in Austin? Did he like it there? Would this step benefit his relationship?—Leo was primarily focused on avoiding loneliness.Researchers from the German Center of Gerontology analyzed data from more than 2,500 participants in a German aging survey. They found that as time went on, people became happier with their single status, and their relationship status became less relevant to them. DePaulo writes that over time, single life gets better and better, and for individuals as they age, satisfaction with their single lives continues to rise. Sparkling 5 stars!!! A huge bravo to Jay Shetty! By far the best author I have discovered this year and 8 rules of love the best book I've read this year. I thought I had choreographed the perfect proposal, but as time passed it occurred to me that all my ideas had come straight from Disney movies and viral proposal videos. Does Radhi actually enjoy a cappella music? Sure, but she isn’t into grand gestures. Does she have an attachment to the Thames or to riding through London? Not really. Clearly, being near horses and covered in hives isn’t her dream date. And it turns out diamonds aren’t her gemstone of choice. What does Radhi really care about? She loves food, and while I’d arranged for a vegan restaurant to deliver food to us at the river, it arrived cold and bland. The one detail she would have appreciated the most was the one I planned the least, and its execution was the worst. Also, Radhi adores her family, and if I’d been considering that, I might have planned for them to jump out of the bushes to surprise us instead of the singers. She would have loved that.
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